Tips for a Marriage Proposal – 5 Things to Consider

Date: 2026/04/20

A proposal is a moment. But it is shaped by several choices you make beforehand – choices that affect how the moment is experienced, both by you and by the person you're asking.

For over 80 years, we have been a part of people's most important promises. This has given us an understanding of what truly matters when planning a proposal. Here, we share five things worth considering.

1. Choose a date that suits you

There's no single perfect day to propose. The most important thing is that the date doesn't clash with other holidays or major events in your lives.

A date that is uniquely yours – without shared associations – is easier to revisit and commemorate year after year. It doesn't need to be symbolically charged for anyone else. It's enough for it to be so for you.

2. Consider what the person you are proposing to appreciates

It's easy to plan based on what you yourself like. But a proposal is about the person you're asking.

Does the person enjoy the company of others? Then a more social proposal might be suitable. Are they someone who values moments just for the two of you? Choose a format that allows for just that.

Being attentive to the other person's daily life and preferences is one of the strongest expressions of care – and it shows.

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3. Choose a ring that matches the person's style

Look at what jewellery the person already wears. This will give you concrete guidance on shape, size and feel – and reduce the risk of making the wrong choice.

Also, consider how the ring will be used in everyday life. Does the person work with their hands? Do they exercise frequently? Do they wear jewellery daily? This affects which material is most suitable.

Red gold is the Swedish classic with a warm tone and timeless feel. White gold gives a neutral, modern expression. Platinum is naturally light and extra durable – a good choice for someone who wears the ring every day without exception. Yellow gold has a light, warm shade and is a traditional choice in many European countries.

The alloy determines the shade: more copper gives a redder tone, more silver gives a lighter and yellower colour.

Explore our engagement rings to find the material and shape that suits you.

4. Engrave a memory

An engraving is a simple way to make the ring more than just a piece of jewelry. The date of the proposal is the most common choice – it preserves the moment when everything began and follows the ring through life.

The engraving can also be more personal: names, initials, a nickname, or a place that means something to you. Many choose to keep the content a secret until the engagement – a small addition to the moment when the rings are put on.

Over time, the engraving can become a legacy. Something that lives on for future generations.

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5. Check ring size in advance

A ring should fit comfortably right away. This makes the moment more reassuring – for you and for the person you're asking.

If you're unsure, you can use a ring the person already wears and compare it with a ring sizer, or ask a close friend for help. The size can always be adjusted afterwards, but a good starting point makes the proposal easier to fully embrace.

Order a free ring sizer from us if you want to be sure before you decide.

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A final word

There is no single "right" proposal – but there are proposals that feel more well-thought-out than others. Not because they are more elaborate, but because they are tailored to the person you are asking.
We help you find the ring with the right shape, proportion, and material – created to be worn every day and remembered forever.

At Schalins, we have been handcrafting engagement and wedding rings in Jämtland since 1946. Each ring is thoughtfully designed and made to last a lifetime.